4 Positive thinking techniques to build the life you want
Positive thinking seems to be a gimmick that you find everywhere.
There can be huge promises and outlandish payoffs that seem like a scam.
The truth is, though, that a positive perspective and positive thinking will go a long way toward building the life you want.
The reason that positive thinking is so impactful is because it can move you forward, where being too critical and allowing bitter thoughts to take over only keep you stuck where you are.
Of course, you want to be realistic with your thinking so that what you’re building for your life can be achieved but you also don’t want to limit yourself.
Here are some techniques that find the balance between realistically possible and positively inventive:
1. Open the door to the unknown.
One thing that holds us back is our expectations of what life should be or how it should go.
We create a narrow path and put on blinders that keep us from experiencing other opportunities.
Allow yourself to be open to the unknown.
The unknown is scary, but think of it positively.
What fantastic options are you unaware of?
What opportunities exist that you don’t know about?
Imagine all the surprising spaces in your life something wonderful can pop up.
Of course, balance this with some positive realism.
Think things through and process the information that becomes available before taking action.
You want to be open to the unknown and to new opportunities, but you don’t want to be reckless and foolish.
2. Find a silver lining.
Life is full of challenges, disappointments, and hardships.
With a positive perspective, however, you can soften the blow and turn the experience into something valuable.
Finding a silver lining will help you build the life you want because you will be able to find value in all of your experiences—good and bad—which will help you learn and grow as a person so that you can be who you want to be and live the life you want to live.
Finding a silver lining might be difficult at first, but eventually you’ll be able to see positives that you weren’t able to before.
If you lose your job, the silver lining might be that you have an opportunity to pursue a dream or career interest you might have been too scared to pursue before.
Finding a silver lining doesn’t mean that you turn a blind eye to your hardships.
A silver lining shouldn’t be confused with denial.
Instead, finding a silver lining is being able to acknowledge the disappointment, challenge, and hardship but choosing to find a positive in it instead of letting it defeat you or depress you.
3. Accept yourself as you are.
Understanding and accepting yourself as you are takes all that extra pressure you put on yourself off.
We all fail.
We all experience disappointment and defeat.
Accepting yourself for your mistakes, your trips, and your flaws will help you overcome unrealistic expectations you may have placed on yourself.
You don’t have to be perfect, and once you accept yourself as you are you can start building the life you want by working with who you are now so that you can create who you want to be.
Accepting yourself and your mistakes doesn’t mean that you make excuses for any wrongdoings you’ve done.
Accepting yourself means acknowledging how you’ve messed up so that you can figure out how you want to change and grow.
4. Help others.
Helping others is a great thing to do anyway but helping others—when applicable—with the wisdom you have gained from your own experiences can be a true positive.
Allowing others to learn through you will help you find value in your experiences.
It’s important, though, that you don’t just incorporate all of your experiences into every conversation.
Not every situation will benefit from you sharing your story, and it’s crucial to evaluate to find out if you would actually be helping the other person by sharing your story and experience so that they can gain what you have learned, or if you’re just making the situation about you and not actually listening to the person you want to help.
Typically, the best way to figure this out is to listen.
If they ask you for your opinion or advise, then you should give it and try to help them.
If they haven’t asked but you feel it will contribute, you can always offer and allow them the option to accept or decline.
Changing your thinking a little bit can help you change and grow as a person so that you can build the life you want.
Cultivating a more positive perspective by using these four techniques will be a valuable tool for building who you want to be and the life you want to live.