Dear Girls

Why Women Who Stay Single For A Long Time End Up The Happiest

Does it seem like everyone is part of a couple?

Are your friends and family putting pressure on you to start dating or settle down?

We are all told from an early age that the only way to be happy is to find a partner, but this just isn’t true.

In fact, women who stay single for long periods of time usually end up happier in the long run, even if they sometimes wish they could meet someone special.

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Here’s why going solo for a while will help you lead a contented life:

1) You won’t give up your career or other goals for a relationship

Lots of women assume that their aspirations should be secondary to those of their partner.

If you stay single, this will never be an issue; because you have no commitments, you can always act in your own interests.

You never have to compromise, and you can lead the lifestyle of your dreams.

You don’t put your life on hold just because you are waiting for a relationship.

2) You will learn how to look to yourself for love and validation

We all like receiving affirmation from someone we love, but the happiest women are those who know how to act as their own cheerleaders.

Staying single forces you to become emotionally self-reliant.

You will learn how to pick yourself up after a bad day, give yourself compliments, and give yourself encouragement in the face of major challenges.

If you need some support, you can call on your friends and family to give you a lift.

3) You learn how to enjoy your own company, and learn more about who you really are

Dating yourself can be just as rewarding as dating someone else.

Solitary dates help you become comfortable in your own skin, which is very empowering.

Even if you later enter a relationship, this sense of self-worth will stay with you for the long haul.

There’s nothing wrong with going out for dinner alone, taking a solo trip, or taking yourself to see a show.

4) You have more time to build other relationships

You’ve probably noticed that when people enter a committed relationship, they spend less time with their friends and family.

This is inevitable – a new partner places demands on your time.

If you are single, you have more opportunities to develop deeper bonds with platonic friends and family.

These relationships will serve you well for years to come, whether you are single or part of a couple.

5) You learn how to make your own decisions

Some women forsake any sense of personal responsibility when they start a relationship.

Instead, they defer to their partner when it comes to making decisions, even those that will affect their lives for years to come, such as where to live, how to invest their money, or which career path to pursue.

Over time, this can result in complete dependency.

However, a woman who has spent a lot of time living a single life will be unafraid to stand up for what she wants and needs from her partner, and in her relationship as a whole.

6) You learn how to be OK with being different

We all know the standard social script – date a few men, find “the one,” get married, have children, and live happily ever after.

Women who deviate from this path can find themselves on the receiving end of unkind comments and judgments. However, this can be a blessing in disguise.

When you choose to live your life in an unconventional way, you soon become accustomed to dealing with other people’s opinions.

You learn that everyone has their own idea of what you “should” do, but you don’t have to listen.

This confidence will spill over into other areas of your life, such as your career. 

Why women who stay single for a long time go on to have awesome relationships

When you appreciate the benefits that come with the single lifestyle, you’ll be reluctant to give them up.

This means that if and when you enter a relationship, you will be doing so from a place of power, and you won’t jump into the dating pool just because you fear being alone.

You’ll also stay in your relationship because your partner adds to your life.

This is the perfect foundation for an happy, healthy partnership between equals.

Alternatively, if you decide to stay single, you still win.

You can have a perfectly satisfying life with yourself, friends, and family for company.

For more relationship advice, click to the link to watch a short video about love: