6 Reasons Why Failure is Actually Good for You
It can be difficult to get back up when it feels like life is constantly knocking us down.
Blow after blow, we keep trying to trudge through our failed experiences to try and reach the moment of success.
Each time we fail at a new venture, a new relationship, or a new career, it gets more and more difficult to keep going—at least with the same stamina and optimism as before.
We start internalizing all these failures and it becomes a little voice at the back of our minds telling us we are a failure.
Once this voice takes over, the threat of giving up and giving in becomes all too real.
Contrary to that little voice, failure is actually a good thing.
Winston Churchill defines success as the ability of going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm.
There are many benefits to experiencing failure, even though you may not think so initially.
Here are 6 reasons why failure is actually good for you:
You learned something.
Thomas Edison is credited with saying “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
This can be applied to all aspects of your life.
Instead of thinking that you failed, focus instead on what you learned.
You learned what didn’t work, and that’s necessary for success.
How can you know what will or won’t work until you try?
A big part of living is simply trial and error.
As long as you actually come away with a learned experience, and now know what not to do in the future, then the experience was valuable.
You did something.
This seems like a small victory, but it is a victory nonetheless.
Taking action, any action, is hard.
It means that you made a choice, good or bad, and followed through with it.
Hindsight is 20/20 because there is no way to see the outcome until you just give it ago, which means there is a huge possibility for failure.
This fear of failure prevents many people from taking any action at all.
You can’t move forward if you are just standing still, so even if you failed you still did something and that adds to your learned experiences and wisdom no matter if you were successful or not.
It boosts your empathy.
While failing doesn’t feel good, actually it feels downright awful, it helps you relate to others better.
We have all struggled to accomplish what we set out to do, and we have all failed at something in our lives.
Experiencing failure is part of the human condition, and when the people around us have similar experiences we are able to call upon that to relate to what they are going through.
This increases our empathy and ability to help others, or at least understand them, while they cope with getting back up and continuing their fight.
Having more empathy also helps us to have more compassion.
We will be more forgiving if we are able to understand what someone else feels and what they are going through.
We will also be more inclined to provide support, because we personally know what it feels like to fail and struggle to get back on your feet after life knocks you down.
It makes you humble.
It is easy for success to go to our heads.
We can get over-confident, and allow our ego to inflate which can cause more harm than good.
Experiencing failure keeps us humble.
It reminds us how hard we have to work to reach success which helps to maintain perspective.
Success is fleeting, and achieving it takes some balance of luck and hard work.
You have to work to earn success, as well as to maintain it.
Being humbled by failure will help you maintain success because you know what you went through to get it and that will prevent you getting over-confident and risking everything you’ve worked for.
It is motivating.
While each experience of failure is a blow to our emotions, our ego, and sometimes our lifestyle, it can also be a motivating factor to get back up and try again.
Failure can make you want success even more and will inspire you to work harder and more creatively to achieve it.
It can also motivate you to work hard to maintain success because you don’t want to feel that failure ever again.
Once we gain the success we’ve been working for be it a career, a relationship status or commitment, or the completion of a project we’ve been working on/toward, it can be easy to relax and get lazy in our approach.
Just because we finally reached our goal doesn’t mean we can stop working.
After every achievement comes new obstacles to work on in order to maintain that success.
Not wanting to experience the failure you went through to get to that point will motivate you to keep going and not allow yourself to become lazy or complacent toward what needs to be done.
Success isn’t always a good thing.
While it may seem that whatever we are working toward and focused on is the best thing ever and we have to have it, a lot of times in our lives that is not true.
It may seem like a great thing at the time, but after deeper analysis and more forward thinking we realize that it really wasn’t.
We may really want that promotion, but after someone else got it we learn that the new boss is horrible and requires overtime without compensation.
We may really want to marry someone, but over time we find out that we are incompatible with them and break-up because a lifetime commitment would have been miserable.
We may really want that new car, but after having to spend our savings on something else we find out that that car had a recall due to faulty safety features.
Sometimes, failure is a blessing and we are better off having not succeeded.
Failure is often viewed as a negative because it feels awful and can have serious consequences attached to it.
While that is true, failure can also be a really great experience.
If you use that failure to create something positive, to learn from it, to become more empathetic, more humble, and to motivate you to keep working hard then it was an experience worth having.
You never know how life is going to turn out, and failure isn’t always something horrible that happens for no reason just to keep you down.
There is a lot to gain from failing if you allow yourself to.