Being a genuine person is more difficult than you might think.
We all have masks that we wear to keep the peace or project an image of confidence that we otherwise may not feel.
Being genuine in our relationships treads very near to being vulnerable—which is terrifying.
When we let people see our true selves, that opens us up to ridicule, mocking, hurt, and conflict.
Most of us want to avoid these experiences, which is why we might put on a mask and develop a “fake” approach to our interactions.
While being “fake” may help protect ourselves from unpleasantries and keep the peace, it also prevents us from being able to truly connect with people.
When we prevent people from getting to know our true thoughts, opinions, and nature, we are preventing them from getting to know us and from building a genuine connection.
Being genuine and true to yourself will improve all your relationships.
You will be able to find truer friends who you connect with and enjoy being around and sharing your time with.
You will improve your trust and interactions with your family because you won’t feel like you have to conform or put on a performance.
You will deepen and strengthen your connections with your significant other partner, building a truer relationship and finding someone you actually connect with and enjoy being with in your home and personal life.
You will even improve your work relationships because you can make a genuine contribution and give productive feedback or ideas.
To build a better life with deeper connections, here are __ ways to be a more genuine person in your relationships:
Give your opinion when asked.
It can be easier to simply agree with everyone, but we are doing both them and ourselves a disservice with that behavior.
Just agreeing for the sake of avoiding a confrontation is depriving both parties of an honest discussion.
When you are asked for your opinion on something—be it a movie, a song, or an issue—be honest and give it.
If you disagree with the opinion the other person presented, be polite and respectful when contradicting them, but be true to yourself and your perspective.
If you offer your opinion as your perspective and not as an attack, the other person will be inclined to listen and learn about it.
This will deepen your conversation and allow you both the opportunity to learn and grow from each other.
It is important to note that giving your opinion when asked for it is not the same as giving it freely.
There is a time and a place for giving your opinion, and it is important to note that not every person or situation will require or ask for it.
But, if they do ask for it, give it!
Meet your own expectations.
We can feel obligated to meet the expectations that other people put on us, but we should only try to meet those expectations if they also align with the expectations and goals we set for ourselves.
We know what we want to get out of life, and twisting ourselves to live the life that others want for us isn’t being true to ourselves.
Set your own goals and expectations of who you want to be and what you want to achieve and work toward those.
If you are genuinely excited about your path and what you are creating, people will support you.
If you are just trying to make others happy, you all will be disappointed in the end because you aren’t actually invested.
It doesn’t feel good to make mistakes or a poor judgment call, but we need to be able to own up to it.
Blaming someone else or the circumstances does nothing to solve or improve the situation.
Taking responsibility for our actions strengthens our relationships because we validate the other person’s emotions and their trust in us.
Admitting that we make a mistake is an important step for building our reliability, trustworthiness, and reliability.
How can someone else trust us if we constantly place blame elsewhere?
Taking responsibility also empowers others to do the same.
When they see you accept the consequences of your actions, they will feel more comfortable and safe to do the same when they make a mistake.
This builds a safe zone between the two of you where you know that you can make mistakes and have the support to go about correcting them without the fear or threat of the relationship crumbing.
Don’t pass judgements.
We are all guilty of judging other people for their choices and actions, but most of those judgements come from our own insecurities or prejudices.
If we are true to ourselves and our life path, then it doesn’t matter if that woman chose to wear leopard print spandex in public.
Her choice doesn’t affect or impair our quality of life, so why pass the judgement?
When we are genuine with ourselves and what we like, dislike, agree with, or disagree with, then we are less likely to judge others when they do something different.
When we support our own perspective, we are also able to acknowledge and accept when someone else has a different perspective than ours.
Being judgmental can severely affect our relationships.
We spend too much time judging others for their choices, and not enough time learning why they made that choice or empowering them to be genuine to their own identity.
When we stop passing judgments and just let people be themselves, we create a relationship where they can freely express themselves and we can do the same.
As long as neither party is causing harm or negatively impacting the world around them, then why not learn more about the other person and allow them the chance to learn more about you.
Being genuine can be a scary path to go down. Being genuine does open yourself up to more disagreements and potential conflict, but you shouldn’t view that as a bad thing.
As long as both parties are respectful of each other and their differences, then you can actually create a deeper relationship where you both feel empowered to be yourselves and grow from each other.
When you are genuine, you will inspire genuine interactions and behaviors from others.