Everyone has their own unique perspective when it comes to love and relationships, but there are some myths that just refuse to die.
Not only are they inaccurate, but they can prevent your relationship reaching its full potential.
Here are 6 of the most common myths lots of us still believe about love and romance:
1. There is one special soulmate out there for everyone:
If you are madly in love with someone, it seems hard to imagine that anyone else could make you happy.
However, the truth is that most people fall in love with someone they just happen to meet in their local area – if there is just one person out there for everyone, this is a pretty big coincidence!
In reality, there are lots of special people out there who could be a great fit for you.
True, it can take a long time to find a good partner, and you’ll never be able to find an exact replacement for someone you’ve lost.
But as long as you’re willing to keep an open mind and put yourself out there, you will find someone who is a great fit for you.
2. The fewer arguments you have, the better your relationship:
Almost every couple argues. It’s just part of being human!
When you share your day-to-day lives, it’s inevitable that you’ll fight.
What’s most important is how you handle your differences.
For example, do you and your partner take the time to listen to one another’s opinions, or do you just try to talk one another into submission?
A destructive conflict style is a warning sign that your relationship is unhealthy.
On the other hand, if you are both able to explain your point of view and respect that some situations require loving compromise, your relationship will be in much better shape.
3. You and your partner should “just know” what the other wants and needs:
No matter how much your partner loves you, they can’t possibly be expected to read your mind.
A lot of people assume that if their partner is “the one,” they should never have to try to communicate their thoughts and feelings.
This idea of romantic telepathy is a nice fantasy, but real-life relationships need to be based on clear communication.
For example, if you want your partner to spend more time with you on weekday evenings, you need to ask.
Sulking, passive aggression, and cryptic hints are not going to work.
The best long-term relationships are based on transparency.
4. A relationship should be 50:50 at all times:
It’s not healthy to keep a running scorecard of who does what in a relationship.
Sometimes, one person has to put in more effort – and that’s OK.
Of course, if you are putting in all the work, it’s time to think about whether the relationship is worth your time.
However, a relationship between two mature adults needs to be flexible.
For example, if you are going through a particularly hectic period at work, it wouldn’t be unreasonable to ask your spouse to take on more chores around the home.
The balance might not be even for a few weeks, but you will probably be able to help in another way at a later date.
If you both choose to approach your relationship as a team effort, it’s more likely to be successful.
You’ll also feel less resentment!
5. It’s normal for romantic and sexual feelings to die in long-term relationships:
The cliché of a stale long-term relationship or marriage is pervasive in popular culture.
We are led to believe that a normal relationship starts off with a whirlwind of passion that always dies down within a couple of years.
Yes, it’s true that most couples settle into a calmer, more contented kind of love when they’ve been together a while.
But this doesn’t mean that the romance has to die.
Making time for romantic dates and time alone – even if you have children – can keep the spark alive.
6. You need a relationship to have a complete and happy life:
This might be the biggest myth of all.
A healthy, supportive relationship with someone you love is awesome, but you can have a wonderful life as a single person.
Some people marry their first love and live happily ever after, but that’s not the norm.
Most of us need to meet and date several people – or maybe even a lot of people! – before we find a good match.
If you are single and looking, don’t put your life on hold while looking for love.
Work on your career, hobbies, and building friendships.
The happier you are as a single person, the more confident you will be – and this will attract the kind of healthy, well-balanced partner you want.
It’s a win-win approach!