How to Stop Overthinking and Over-stressing
Thoughts are extremely powerful.
Take a look around you–everything you see was a thought before it came into existence.
Sometimes we underestimate the ability thoughts have to manifest themselves into our lives, which is why it’s especially important to monitor the negative ones.
What if I told you all the love, happiness, and success you ever wanted is locked away… deep inside of you?
The only things preventing you from having the life you want, are your negative thoughts.
But you don’t need to be a slave to them anymore.
I want to walk you through a 4-step-process to train your brain to let go of negative thoughts, and even reverse them for good.
Step 1: Acknowledge Negative Thoughts as Visitors Not Guests
More often than not, negative thoughts seem to arise out of, what feels like nowhere.
Your day may even be exceptionally pleasant when–BAM!
Terrible notions rush through your mind knocking the wind right out of your sails.
When these unwelcome visitors arrive, acknowledge them.
Much like an unexpected salesperson showing up to your house–they won’t go away until you answer the door and ask them too.
But, with your negative thoughts, you don’t have to be as polite.
It’s easy to attach to thoughts as they come.
This usually starts by identifying the parts of the negative thoughts that seem true or real and then building an entire dialogue around it.
To prevent this, acknowledge your thoughts as an outsider.
You see them, but there is no need to interact.
Detaching is the initial step towards permanently removing the power negative thoughts have on your life.
Detaching from your negative thoughts removes the possibility of an intense emotional reaction, it doesn’t mean you’re ignoring them.
Which brings us to step two.
Step 2: Identify the Root of the Your Negative Thoughts
In the previous step, we recognized when you experience negative thoughts you have a split moment to decide to emotionally separate yourself from those thoughts in order to protect your well-being.
Step 2 is about reflection.
Whether you decide to do this immediately or at the end of the day, it’s important to reflect on what may be the root cause of your negative thoughts.
This step is especially important if you’re looking for permanent results.
Here are a few common root causes of negative thoughts:
Persistent negative thinking: Some negative thoughts come by surprise.
Others are thoughts you may actively choose to have.
If you feel overall negatively about most things, this will certainly cause negative thoughts to persist.
This can even be unconscious behavior so pay attention to your regular thoughts or keep a journal.
Fear: Mismanaged fear surrounding an issue or a person can cause negative thinking.
Identifying the fear and dealing with it may bring resolution to a multitude of thoughts.
Anxiety: Anxiety is usually a physical and emotional response but can result in negative thoughts
Negative People: Surrounding yourself with negative people will inevitably lead to negative thinking.
…and others including sadness, jealousy, guilt, or insecurities.
The only way to truly know is to reflect on any unresolved issues in your life.
If you continue to avoid them, it will be nearly impossible to release negative thoughts.
Step 3: Change Your Body Language
Thus far, everything you’ve done to release negative thoughts has been internal.
Not seen, but certainly felt.
Now it’s time to shift from negative to positive thinking by adjusting your body language.
It’s no secret that the muscles used when smiling send stress-reducing chemicals to the brain that are there to relax the body.
Similarly, you can trick the mind into releasing negative thoughts and feelings by immediately shifting your body language.
If you’re standing still start walking, if your shoulders are hunched dropped them down and back, if you’re burrowing your brow release it and calm your facial muscles.
The connectedness of the mind and body are incredible and your mind will follow the relaxing motions of the body, releasing negative thoughts and energy.
Reversely, there is body language that can lead to negative thoughts as opposed to negative thoughts leading to poor body language.
Crossed arms or legs, covering your mouth during or after speaking, and pointing are a few examples.
These can trigger stress warning in the brain and block off your ability to monitor negative thinking.
Step 4: Train Your Self-Talk
Self-talk is that little private dialogue you have in your mind that is constantly reminding you what you think and feel about any given subject.
This internal conversation persists whether you’re in tune with what’s being said or not.
It’s time to tune-in.
Permanently releasing negative thoughts is a proactive approach to rewiring your self-talk.
The goal is to remain honest and gentle with your words to yourself.
In the beginning stages of training your self-talk, you can write a small script the rehearse as you sit in traffic or stand in the coffee line.
Negative thoughts won’t stand a chance against the intuitive nature that is reaffirming self-talk.
The life-changing effects of these 4 steps to permanently releasing negative thoughts can be felt right away.
If you have the power to monitor your thoughts, you have the power over everything you need in life.
Mind is everything. What we think, we become. — Buddha