Finding the right relationship takes time, patience, and a bit of luck.
If you feel lonely, you might be tempted to commit to someone who isn’t a good fit. This is a big mistake. Relationships based on a fear of being alone don’t last long, because they aren’t rooted in love and compatibility.
Instead of committing to the first man who shows any interest in you, wait for a guy who does these 9 things:
1. He makes you feel happy and safe
A guy who loves you will always make you feel secure. You won’t have to second-guess his motives, or worry what he’s doing when you’re apart.
He makes you feel desirable, cherished, and protected. You won’t feel jealous of his female friends or colleagues, because you know that he would never dream of hurting you.
2. He sticks to his promises
If your partner only honors plans when it suits him, he doesn’t respect your time. A good man will make arrangements well in advance and always follow through.
If he’s going to be late, he’ll tell you as soon as possible, and give a sincere apology. He never forgets important dates and anniversaries, and goes out of his way to make them special.
3. He isn’t afraid to show you off to his family and friends
When a man falls in love, he’s excited to introduce his partner to the other important people in his life. Wait for a man who is proud to call himself your boyfriend.
If he isn’t keen to integrate you into his family or social circle, he probably doesn’t see you as a long term prospect. Never stay with someone who wants to keep you a secret.
4. He believes in open, honest communication
A relationship in which one or both partners can’t communicate with the other probably won’t last longer than a few months.
If you can’t have an honest discussion with your partner, it’s time to move on. Any man who claims to love you won’t make a habit of lying to you.
If you catch him cheating, your best bet is to leave. Cheaters tend to repeat their mistakes.
5. He isn’t scared of commitment
If you want a long term relationship, you need to wait for a man with similar goals. It may sound obvious, but lots of women invest time and energy in men who make it clear that they just want a casual fling.
When a man tells you that he isn’t in the market for a committed relationship, believe him. Don’t stick around and hope he’ll change his mind.
6. He admits that he misses your company if you’re apart
Men are taught that they should appear strong and tough at all times. If your partner feels comfortable admitting that he misses having you around, it’s a positive sign that he not only likes your company but that he can be honest with you.
7. He lives according to his own moral code
Wait for a man with integrity, rather than someone who follows the herd. Wait for a man with firm ideas about right and wrong and a willingness to abide by his own standards.
You can trust this kind of man to make good decisions that are driven by principles instead of convenience. Choose someone who strives to be the best possible version of himself.
8. He defends you when you’re vulnerable
If he loves you, he will never stand by when someone insults you or puts you down. He will always step in when someone tries to hurt you, because your happiness and safety matters to him.
He will be loyal to you and back you up when it matters most.
9. He addresses problems head-on
All relationships have problems, but most can be overcome if you tackle them as a team. If your partner is reluctant to acknowledge your troubles, take it as a big red flag.
If a man really loves you, he will make it a priority to sit down and talk about what’s gone wrong, and how you can fix it.
You deserve someone who puts you first
If you’ve had some bad dating experiences, this list might look a little unrealistic. You may be asking yourself, “Are there really any men like that out there?”
The answer is “Yes!” They might seem like a rarity, but these guys do exist.
Be patient, meet as many new people as possible, and you’ll find the right partner. Never sell yourself short by settling for a man who doesn’t treat you with love and respect.