There is a lot of pressure and mixed messages on what men expect from women.
Society is flush with articles outlining what to wear, what to say, what to do, etc. that will make you appealing and desirable.
Even if you take all the solicited and unsolicited advice in an attempt to increase your chances of finding someone to connect with, it doesn’t always pan out.
This can lead many women to feel insecure and inadequate.
If you did all the things that all the articles have told you to do, then why are you alone?
The truth is that there are a lot of factors that go into a relationship, and the make-up you put on or the clothes you wear are only pieces of a much larger puzzle.
Those may contribute to making an impression, but what makes a woman unforgettable is less of what she wears and much more of who she is.
An unforgettable woman is the woman that leaves a mark.
The woman who remains at the back of her former partner’s mind, making them always wonder about her.
Whether it’s wondering if they made the biggest mistake by letting her go, or what she’s doing in her life, or simply reminiscing about how amazing it was to have been with her at all.
Sometimes an unforgettable woman lingers on the ex’s mind because they are kicking themselves for losing her and wishing they made other choices; sometimes she lingers because she was just so amazing that your ex simply wonders about her and her life, never able to forget her.
Being an unforgettable woman doesn’t have to be focused on the regret of a failed relationship—relationships end for numerous reasons and sometimes it’s for the best.
Here are 5 traits that make a woman unforgettable:
Having a spark for life.
Life is all about living and experiences.
A woman who has a spark for experiencing life and finding joy in it is a woman you won’t soon forget.
That doesn’t mean you have to have wild adventures or constantly push yourself out of your comfort zone.
It means that you enjoy living your life and participating in the act of living, whatever that looks like for you.
It can mean you travel the world and seek new places.
It can mean you garden and pour a bit of yourself into every plant and flower you cultivate.
It can mean you save up to have a night out enjoying the performing arts, or go all out for a night in with a new book or your favorite film.
Having a spark for life and enjoying whatever experiences you enjoy that make life worthwhile to you will make you unforgettable.
Having meaningful connections.
No one wants a partner who makes one person their entire world.
That’s a lot of pressure to place on that person.
Having meaningful connections outside your relationship is healthy and makes you a balanced person.
Those connections can be with family, friends, co-workers, or a combination of all of the above.
It shows that you have ties and a life outside your partner and your relationship which makes you alluring and stable.
You build your life for you and not just for every new relationship that comes in.
Relationships can be fleeting, and being with someone who tears down their life after every romantic partner just to build it up again around a new one is someone who is forgettable because there’s no other substance to their life outside their partner—they are incomplete without a relationship, and that emptiness doesn’t leave an impression.
Who and what you connect to is part of who you are, and having meaningful connections will make you whole and unforgettable.
Being a kind, caring person can feel like a double-edged sword sometimes.
Kind people are often taken advantage of or exploited for their kindness, but your kindness is never forgotten.
You don’t have to be a bleeding heart or try to save the world, but being kind to people—both loved ones and strangers alike—says a lot about you and people will remember.
We all remember the little acts of kindness others bestow upon us, and the ones we witness can inspire us to do more, too.
Especially, when you can continue to be kind to others despite the hardships that we all encounter when dealing with unkind people in the world.
Having a passion for caring.
A person who cares is someone you won’t easily forget.
If you passionately care about something, it reflects who you are and your values. A person with values who cares about something is a person that leaves a mark.
You can care about other people, your career, a movement, animals—anything!
You can care about multiple things.
They can be serious, they can be silly, but being passionate and caring about something connects you to the world and it to you.
People remember the things someone is passionate about.
They remember the things that others care about and what means so much to them.
Persistence can sometimes get a bad reputation, but it should not be confused with steamrolling or pushiness.
It can get confused with people pushing past boundaries, never accepting “no,” or steamrolling over others despite their opinions or feelings.
That’s not what persistence is.
While those behaviors will also make you unforgettable, but in a negative way, being persistent is positive.
It means not giving up when life puts up road blocks.
It means getting back up after you’ve been knocked down.
It means learning, growing, and striving for your goals and aspirations.
It’s easy to become complacent, to stop fighting and just give up and give in to whatever is easiest.
Being persistent and continuing to push for the life you want to live is a trait that no one will soon forget.
Being an unforgettable woman comes from being yourself.
It comes from living your life for you, connecting with others and the world, and continuing to push for what is important to you despite the hardships you encounter along the way.
Living your life this way will make you a woman that no one will soon forget.