7 Subtle Signs That You Are In The Wrong Relationship
Do you feel exhausted in your relationship? Do you feel like no matter what you do, it’s never enough? Have you contemplated the entire relationship because it just doesn’t feel right?
Well, if you’ve experienced any of these feelings, then chances are that you’re in the wrong relationship.
Now there’s no textbook definition of what a wrong relationship looks like, however, there are a few recurring indications when you’re in one. Here are seven signs that you’re in the wrong relationship.
(1) You Haven’t Experienced Growth:
When you’re with the right person, you grow and glow differently.
The right partner becomes your strength, they support you, encourage you, nurture you, they become a bridge to your success.
If you’re in a relationship where you haven’t experienced any growth, may it be personal, professional or academic, then maybe the two of you aren’t meant to be together. With the wrong person, you’ll always convince yourself to procrastinate, they won’t push you towards your dream, they won’t remind you to hustle hard as it is none of their concern.
(2) You Are Always Giving Explanations:
When you’re in the wrong relationship, you’ll always be justifying things to your partner, giving them explanations.
Why you did what you did, when you did it, where you did it, who you did it with, such questions are only acceptable if they come out of genuine concern, not when you feel like you owe it to them to report what you’ve done.
Remember, it is one thing to share what you do with your partner, it is a whole different thing having to fill them up with your schedule like a journal.
(3) You Don’t Feel Comfortable:
When you’re in a new relationship, it is natural to feel slightly shy talking to your partner about certain topics but once time passes, you develop comfort with your partner.
If you’ve been with your partner a while, hesitation shouldn’t be in the picture anymore.
You should be able to share anything with them without dithering. If you have something on your mind, with the right person, you’ll have it right out on your tongue.
And if you feel like you’re still not comfortable with them after you’ve been together for a long period, you’ll know you’re not with the right person.
(4) You Can’t Count On Them:
With the right person, you can put all your trust in their hands because you’re sure that no matter what, this person wouldn’t let you down. But when you’re in a relationship with the wrong person, then you won’t be able to trust them.
This isn’t about the kind of trust where you ask them to bring laundry from the dry cleaner or let them decide what movie to watch, this is about the kind of trust where you’d actually consider their suggestion while making a major life decision, like what college to pick, what career choice to make, what next to do in life and so on.
If you feel like you would never reach a point in your relationship where you can trust your partner enough to make these decisions with you, then you might want to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship.
(5) You Don’t Feel Protected:
The wrong partner will never make you feel like you’re safe and protected.
This doesn’t necessarily have to be the physical protection where they fight-off street punks for you (although that’d be kind of cool), instead this refers to you feeling at peace in your head. When in a relationship that is perfect for you, you’ll think of your partner as a safety blanket that you can always wrap yourself inside whenever you need to and they will make you feel safe again.
(6) You Take An Interest In Others:
The number one requirement of a healthy and happy relationship is loyalty from both the partners. When you’re with a person you love, you will never be interested in anyone except for them.
If you find yourself taking an interest in any person who isn’t your partner, then you’ll be wrong to continue to stay in the relationship.
(7) You Aren’t Happy:
The ultimate point of committing to a person is to be happy, with and for them. If you often find yourself wondering whether or not you’re even happy with your partner, you need to stop and make your mind up.
If the concluding decision is you not being happy, then it’s time to call quits. If you’re experiencing one or more of these signs, then – it’s time to make some tough choices.