Renowned singer-actress, Demi Lovato, thinks gender reveal parties are contemptuous and has taken to her Instagram page to repost a message written by transgender rights activists Alok Vaid-Menon.
Alok has defined the current pregnancy trend, which is characterized by the explosion of blue or pink balloons or glitter, as ‘transphobic’.
“Thank you for sharing your knowledge to educate us always,” wrote Lovato under her post before sharing the writeup by Vaid-Meno n.
“This isn’t about being politically correct, it’s about being correct. The refusal to admit it comes from the misunderstanding of what transphobia is,” read the original post by Vaid-Menon.
“Transphobia is not only violence and prejudice against transgender persons, it is also a perception that other people are more natural than trans.
Only individual people can determine their gender on their own,” the post continued.
In other posts that accompanied the first one, Vaid-Menon wrote that it’s both incorrect and insincere to conclude that gender reveal parties aren’t transphobic.
“We speak against gender reveals not because of our identity, but because of reality. You just can’t have your proverbial pink-blue cake and eat it too,” the post continued.
Having written in the post that transphobia makes people perceive non-trans as the natural/organic ones without regard for anyone else, Vaid-Menon added that these ideas ‘promote gender binary and lead to the mistreatment of all people, particularly trans and non-conforming persons’
The transgender rights activist further notes that gender reveals are based on the illusion that genitals translate to one’s sex and that only two options to it t exist: boy and girl.
“With that way of thinking, people neglect the fact that some boys live with vaginas and vice versa. Even more, they erase the fact that there are people who are neither girls nor boys,” she explained.
Meanwhile, the post as shared by Demi Lovato has amassed a quarter of a million likes, with many followers divided on whether Alok Vaid-Meno’s assessment of what gender reveal parties entail is stretched too far.
“Baby girl, most of these parents are just happy that they’re having a baby and want to celebrate it. It’s not about the gender,” commented a follower.
As the post continues, Alok went on to elaborate that people’s notion of gender being genital-dependent is inconsistent with science, stressing that gender reveals is not only the invalidation of transness but the impossibility of it.
“The idea goes: although we might identify as trans now, we were cis from birth and only became trans later in life. But the truth is everyone is just born, and we all become after the fact.
Although people gendering us is something we have grown accustomed to, it doesn’t make it right still; only individuals can and should determine their own gender.”
Towards the post’s ending, Vaid-Menon pointed out how reveal parties uphold the gender binary and how that obviate people from observing reality. Rather, it presents ‘historically and culturally determined norms (for instance, pink used to be considered a masculine color) as personhood’.
In conclusion, Alok wrote, “People are taught to experience themselves and one another as ideas of how they should be, not what is or what they really are. The irony remains that nonconformists and trans are accused of advancing a gender ideology, but that’s not the case as we are only trying to escape it.”