Dating isn’t easy, and male behavior can be baffling.
Have you ever been on a few amazing dates with a man who suddenly ghosted you?
Perhaps you have no problem attracting men, but can’t seem to get a relationship off the ground?
Not every relationship will work out, and that’s OK.
In fact, the majority of men you date won’t turn out to be “the one.”
On the other hand, if you keep getting a sense of déjà vu, it’s time to examine your dating style.
Here are some habits you must avoid at all costs:
1. Telling him all your personal problems during the first few dates
Honesty is a wonderful trait, and relationships should be based on transparency.
However, resist the urge to tell him all about your previous relationships, family secrets, and most embarrassing medical problems until you’ve been seeing each other for a while.
The first few dates should be light-hearted; your goals is to learn more about him and his life.
Don’t treat him like a therapist, because he will conclude you are too intense.
2. Asking lots of questions about his ex
It’s normal to be curious about a potential partner’s dating history, but interrogating someone about their ex is intrusive.
It’s sensible to ask him how long he’s been single, and how long he was with his previous partner, but there’s no reason to press for further details in the early days.
Not only is this kind of questioning rude, but this behavior also suggests to a man that you are insecure.
He might assume that you want to compare yourself with his former girlfriend, which isn’t attractive.
3. Expecting him to read your mind
It doesn’t matter how much your partner loves you; it’s unfair to expect him to magically know what you want and need.
A man will get frustrated if you appear annoyed or upset but tell him that nothing’s wrong.
You will have a much healthier, more enjoyable relationship if you use a direct communication style.
4. Saying “Yes” or “You decide” too often
Most men like women who have their own preferences and opinions.
If you mindlessly agree to all his suggestions and claim to support all his opinions, he’ll soon become bored, suspicious, or both.
It’s fine to let him take the lead sometimes, but try to take the initiative every now and then.
Share your hobbies and interests.
Make it clear you have a life outside of him and the relationship.
5. Acting clingy
No one likes a clingy or jealous partner.
If you message and call him all day, he’ll soon conclude that you are crazy or have nothing better to do than sit around and think about him.
For most guys, this is a turn-off.
Pathological jealousy is another bad habit that has no place in a good relationship.
Do not ask him to account for his whereabouts at all times, and don’t randomly call or check in on him just to make sure he’s not misbehaving.
No one likes to be under suspicion all the time.
6. Criticizing his tastes
When a man shares his favorite music, movies, shows, films, and art with you, he is making himself vulnerable.
By showing you what he likes, he’s risking judgment.
Don’t abuse his trust by mocking his taste, even if you think it’s all in good fun.
Not only is it bad manners to pour scorn on someone else’s preferences, but he’ll be hesitant to open up in the future, which will only create distance between you.
If you embarrass a man, he won’t want to spend time with you.
What do men want?
We’ve all heard the cliché, “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.”
In reality, men and women are quite similar when it comes to dating.
Both want a partner who is pleasant and easy to be with, open-minded, assertive, independent, intelligent, and well-mannered.
They want someone who is willing to make space for someone special in their lives, whilst maintaining a sense of independence.
Take a look at your life as a whole, and ask yourself what you can bring to a relationship.
You don’t have to be perfect – no one is!
– but you need to offer to a prospective partner everything you want in return.
This includes communication skills, a solid self-image, and an understanding of when to share a secret and when to hold back.
Work on developing your confidence and self-esteem, and your new, healthy habits will attract and keep a man who is right for you.