13 Pieces Of Old-School Dating Advice We Should Bring Back In Style

There used to be a strict set of rules everyone followed when it came to dating.

Men and women knew what was expected of them.

People took dating seriously; there was no hook-up culture.

To ask someone out on a date was a big deal.

With the rise of online matchmaking and a more open-minded culture, it feels like anything and everything goes these days.

Whilst this has its advantages, the downside is that lots of us feel a bit lost when it comes to relationships and romance.

These old-fashioned dating habits might seem too quaint for the 21st century but, if we bought them back, everyone would feel more special and valued in their relationships:

1. Ask someone on a proper date

If you like someone, go up to them and ask them for a date. Suggest a time and a place, and let them either accept or decline.

Ask them over the phone if you can’t do it face to face.

Yes, this requires a lot of courage, but the other person will find it a refreshing change from vague “hangout”-style dates and hook-ups.

If they say “No thanks,” at least you’ll know immediately that they aren’t interested.

2. Always be on time

Turning up late suggests you don’t respect your date’s time, which isn’t a good first impression.

If you are unexpectedly held up somewhere, call and let them know as soon as possible.

3. Make your intentions clear

If you aren’t looking for a serious relationship, make it obvious within the first couple of dates.

Don’t lead people on.

4. Keep your phone in your pocket

There’s nothing quite as disheartening as trying to make conversation with someone who is looking down at their phone.

Your date won’t be impressed if you can’t bear to put it away for a couple of hours.

5. Look your best

There’s no need to dress as though you’re going for a job interview, but put some effort into your appearance.

You’d want your date to wear nice clothes and style their hair, so make sure you do the same.

6. Practice your conversation skills

Some people have a natural talent for small talk, which puts them at an advantage when it comes to dating.

However, don’t despair if you find it hard to think of things to talk about.

The trick is to focus on your date. Ask them about their lives; where they work, what they do in their free time, and so on. When they ask you questions in return, answer honestly. Be yourself.

7. Open doors for your date

Whether you’re a man or a woman, this gesture will always leave a great impression.

The golden rule: Show consideration at all times.

8. Consider holding back on first-date sex

There’s nothing wrong with sleeping together on the first date if it’s what you both want.

On the other hand, if you hold back for a few dates first, you’ll have the chance to build anticipation and emotional intimacy, which can make it more special.

9. Arrange dates for the daytime as well as the evening

If you only date in the evening, this could send out the wrong impression, i.e. that you are mostly concerned with getting your date into bed.

Suggest a lunch date, or plan a daytime date at the weekend.

10. Call afterwards and thank your date

Even if you don’t want to see them again, follow up the next day with a call.

Thank them for the date. If you’d like to spend more time with them, say so.

Then, if you asked them on the first date, they have the option to ask you out in return.

11. If you asked someone out, offer to pay

Whatever your gender, always offer to pay if you suggested the date.

If your date wants to split the check, that’s OK. Just make it clear that you’re happy to foot the bill.

12. Don’t play games

If you promise to call, text, or see someone, do it.

Don’t play hard to get, don’t leave anyone hanging, and never date multiple people at once unless everyone involved understands you aren’t looking for a committed relationship.

13. Give small, thoughtful gifts

Showing up with a big bunch of flowers isn’t appropriate, but little gifts that show you know what kind of person they are will always be appreciated.

For example, if they mention that they loved a particular kind of candy bar but haven’t had it since they were a kid, you could make a special trip to the store and pick one up.

These rules won’t guarantee you a perfect date, but they will ensure you leave a great impression.

Even if you never see the other person again, they will remember you as a kind, considerate date who treated them with respect.