9 Behaviors Of Someone Who Is Secretly In Love With You

In an ideal world, we’d all be able to tell the people we love how we really feel.

Yet in reality, there are lots of reasons why we might not be forthcoming with our emotions.

A fear of rejection or reluctance to risk a workplace friendship are perhaps two of the most common reasons.

In addition, some of us are raised in families that actively discouraged displays of emotion or declarations of love.

It’s also important to bear in mind that men are taught to appear calm and rational at all times, and to suppress their feelings where possible.

So, how can you tell whether someone you know has developed serious feelings for you?

Here are 9 signs to watch for:

1. They immediately jump to your defense

Someone who loves you will go out of their way to help you in times of need.

If they see or hear other people insulting or mistreating you, they will step in to defend you.

They will also be quick to help you out in practical ways, such as running errands or fixing things.

2. They seem to find you fascinating

Think back to the last time you fell in love.

You probably wanted to ask your crush lots of questions about themselves.

If someone behaves likewise towards you, particularly if they are interested in the little details of your life, they may well be developing intense romantic feelings.

3. You seem to run into them on a regular basis

Obviously, stalking is a pathological behavior and not a sign of true love, but someone with an innocent crush on you may engineer social situations so that they are likely to run into you.

For instance, they may decide to arrive at work or leave at the same time as you.

If you are both attending the same party or meeting, don’t be surprised if they suggest you walk or drive there together.

Basically, they will look for excuses to spend  time with you.

4. They find any excuse to touch you in social situations

This can be quite subtle.

For instance, they may quickly touch your forearm to get your attention or when making an important point in conversation, or playfully punch you on the shoulder.

Of course, if they touch you in an inappropriate manner, this is harassment and should never be tolerated.

5. They create in-jokes that only the two of you appreciate

In-jokes are a great way of creating intimacy.

If they frequently reference events and ideas only you understand, it’s because they are trying to form an emotional alliance with you.

6. They will always listen to you, but look uncomfortable when the topic of your relationships comes up

There’s no getting around it; when you have a crush on someone, hearing about their love life isn’t fun.

If your friend or colleague usually loves listening to you but looks upset or jealous when you talk about your current or past relationships, this is a reliable sign that they see you as more than just a friend.

7. They can’t stop looking at you

This one is simple.

If someone can’t help but glance at you a lot, they probably find you attractive.

Intense eye contact during conversation is another reliable sign.

8. They are cool and confident in front of others, but somewhat awkward around you

If someone is besotted with you, they will be keen to make a good impression.

As a result, they might become self-conscious and even somewhat clumsy when talking to you.

Watch out for signs of nervousness such as blushing or stuttering.

9. They consistently demonstrate empathy

One of the joys – and pains – of being in love is feeling someone else’s emotions as keenly as your own.

Someone who is consistently empathic, feeling content when you are happy and low when you are in pain, has developed strong emotions for you.

What should you do if someone shows these signs?

Remember, even if someone shows all 9 signs, this doesn’t mean they are definitely in love with you.

Don’t corner them and ask them to confess.

If you return their feelings, ask them out for a low-key date, such as a coffee.

If you don’t feel the same way, treat them with respect and kindness, but don’t let them think there’s a chance you could get together.

Don’t flirt with them, play with their emotions, or send them mixed messages.

Be prepared to turn them down gently but firmly if they decide to tell you how they feel;

always treat others how you’d like to be treated in return.