No one is there for you like your brother or sister, and no one else is going to honestly tell you that outfit makes you look like chicken farmer. Mom and dad are going to tell you that you look beautiful no matter what – it’s your siblings who are there to give it to you real talk.
Recognizing the prevalence of brutally honest brothers, Twitter user Syrianting posted a prompt for all of her followers: “If you ever wanna be humbled, ask your brother how you look.”
That’s all it took, and the Internet of sisters were off to the races shooting selfies to their brothers followed by: How do I look?
Some of the responses are downright hilarious! Others, make me think these brothers need to shape up and be a little nicer to their sisters.
Clearly, brothers love the opportunity to tease and annoy their beloved sisters.
Keep reading to see some of our favorite replies, plus read between the lines for information on the interesting science behind sibling relationships.
Your siblings are your first playmates and friends. According to extensive research, growing up with brothers or sisters can change you as a person.
After all, you spend an estimated 10 to 17 hours per week with your brothers and sisters.
Research continues to find that the ways you interact with your siblings can follow you all through life – impacting your future relationships, overall happiness, and even your self image.
Research shows that young children with older siblings tend to develop theory of mind, or can put themselves in other people’s shoes, earlier than their peers without older siblings.
No matter if you have brothers or sisters, your siblings help teach you how to interact in the world, they help us develop social skills and learn how to resolve conflicts – because let’s be real, a house full of siblings is equally full of conflict!
According to Mark Feinberg, a teacher of human development at Penn State University, “Sibling relationships influence children’s adjustment and development about as much as parenting does.”
Sibling relationships, termed ‘Sibling Effects’, have a huge impact on a broad spectrum of the human psyche – cognitive, social, emotional, and so forth. So, in other words, be careful how you treat your brothers and sisters!
It’s not just older siblings with something to teach. Younger siblings have been shown to teach empathy to their older siblings.
Siblings who report feeling close to one another tend to mimic the behavior of the other. For instance, if one sibling drops out of college, the other is more likely to do the same if they are close.
Did you know scientists have found the ideal formula for when to space kids apart for the greatest success? It’s true!
They call it XB-S – X is code for the eldest child (boy or girl) born two years before a brother (B) who is born five or more years before a sister (S).
On the sad side, sibling bullying has been linked to depression, self-harm, and anxiety.
Fortunately, some research points to the fact we can outgrow these limitations.
“By the time we reach adulthood, we have gained enough other formative experiences in the world that any actual differences between siblings and singletons are pretty negligible—overridden by differences in temperament, personality, and personal preference,” says Anderson University psychologist Susan Doughty.
While not having siblings may shape your life in some ways, it’s only one factor among many so don’t lose hope.
A combination of good and bad sibling interactions is key to a well-balanced individual. Although, the best outcomes arise from a high level of closeness paired with a low level of negativity.
I didn’t grow up with brothers but many of my cousins did. I remember one cousin in particular would get roasted by her brothers on a regular basis. All she had to do was wear makeup and they’d pick on her all night!
That’s because brothers can be brutally honest and total pesterers. They mean it out of love, or so we can hope!
Younger siblings usually start out adoring their older siblings, mimicking their talents and strengths. Yet, over time, they begin to develop their own strengths and attributes after realizing that they can’t succeed on the same level as their sibling in all the same areas.
To limit competition between our brothers and sisters, who might get better grades or attract more mates, we begin to create our own identities and areas of strength.